• wmdoran replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    Think what you want but what I’m suggesting is not crazy. Here’s a recent story where the ‘donor’ father is winning rights: http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/jurisprudence/2015/02/sperm_donor_parental_rights_new_jersey_lesbian_couple_is_losing_visitation.html.

    These children are so young; 1.5 and other still in womb. You’re…[Read more]

  • wmdoran replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    I’m offering @ellssjay an idea. It sounds like her boyfriend is interested in his children and their ‘friends’ are open to him being part of their lives. This is a pretty complicated situation, calling this man less than altruistic because he desires to be part of his children is reflective of a broken perspective of fatherhood on your part.…[Read more]

  • yfactor replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    Building a case to obtain parental rights?!? Preparing for legal battle, probably a nasty one. Doesn’t sound like that’s what children need.

    Well you don’t know me @wmdoran. I made more long-term decisions when I was young, even at the end of primary school. Maybe that’s in my genes 🙂 I also wasn’t hit by the news and due to chronological order…[Read more]

  • wmdoran replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    We did get a little off topic. Thanks for commenting back @ellssjay. I’m sorry to hear the stress you are facing as part of this dysfunction. My thoughts are either way the friendship is over. Each party has expectations that are not in line with the other’s. I think the original ‘agreement’ is out the window. Is any of it on paper? Keep all…[Read more]

  • yfactor replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    Yeah we come from different places. If the genetic father becomes a threat to the family, it’s logical he wants to protect it. However, this does not have to happen. Both are in a way the father, one social/legal and the other genetic. A donor conceived should not have to choose one of them, but should be raised by the social parents and free to…[Read more]

  • wmdoran replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    You are coming from a place of belief that it is Ok to create children and families this way with third parties. I am coming from the place that it is damaging to everyone involved as @ellssjay has shared. Creating families this way is an illusion of family but there are consequences. The social parent in this case is not forcing pictures it…[Read more]

  • wmdoran replied to the topic Emotional Support in the forum Sperm Donors 5 years, 6 months ago

    @ellssjay Thanks for sharing. That is heart-breaking to read. To tell you about myself I am sperm ‘donor’ conceived. I found my father through my DNA. He sold his sperm for a decade. I likely have hundreds of siblings and have no way to contact. When I found my father the similarities were insane. Not just physical, but even my profession…[Read more]

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